Problem with dating married man
And make no mistake, when you date a married man, you’re not just in a relationship with one person — you’re in a relationship with two. And how do you convince a rational God-fearing woman to throw her morals and integrity out the window? The acts of seduction aren’t acts of love — they’re acts of persuasion. Do not fall for the “attention” lure — because it always fades. Now, I know there's a part of you that believes your relationship is different. And yet, let me remind you: This is not about whether or not your feelings are intense (they are). Here's the problem with that: The second the affair comes to light, all those previous marital problems “evaporate”, and now the couple begins fighting about the affair. Only a coward lies and hides and tries to escape via an affair. Well, that leads me to the final insight (and one I consider to be the most important thing you could take away).
With all that said, let me share some insights that others have had to learn the hard way — but hopefully, after reading them here today, you won't have to: 5 Key Insights Key Insight #1: Rituals of seduction are not signs of love This one is tricky, especially for women who are emotionally-driven. Key Insight #2: 98% of all women who fall in love with married men get left behind. It's not about whether or not his feelings for you are intense (they probably are). The wife forgets that she used to take him for granted — suddenly, he finds himself getting all the attention he never got from her before, and both of them forget all the problems they had before the affair… This is bad news for the “other woman”, because soon, it becomes “two against one”… Insight #3: If he's lying to HER, he's lying to YOU. Why would you assume that a man who lies to his wife isn’t lying to you? If he's sneaking around, paying for stuff for you out of their money, lying or hiding the facts from his wife, then this man is a liar. Key Insight #5: You’re helping him tolerate the discomforts of his marriage.
He does all the things I like: He opens doors, buys me things and takes me places.
He makes me feel like I'm the only thing in the world that matters to him. Here’s another thing: Whether or not you want to admit it, you've got to consider the fact that you’re helping him sow those deceptive seeds.
He has not had sex with her for over a year, and she does not want to go back to her country. We doubt he is keeping her as up to date about you, as he “appears” to be keeping you informed about her. If you pursue this romance you are implicitly endorsing a model for behavior in life and love.
So there would seem to be a high probability that deceit is in his behavioral repertoire. Take his story at face value and we notice his proclivity to weasle his way around problems — rather than deal with them head on. So be sure you understand the model you are acting out.
You’ve extracted yourself from undesirable situations before. Owing to their experience, married men understand the emotional needs and desires of women better than their single counterparts.However, men usually get attracted to other women as a result of a deficiency or a lack of satisfaction (emotional/sexual) in their present relationship.Also, dating a man who's married may entail many restrictions such as not being seen in public places together or being with him only when he can find free time away from his family or sneak out and meet you.Even more difficult can be living with the bitter truth that you are sharing him with his wife.