Catholic rules for dating
Kerry Cronin, associate director of the Lonergan Institute at Boston College, has spoken on the topic of dating and hook-up culture at more than 40 different colleges.She says that when it comes to dating, young adult Catholics who identify as more traditional are more frequently interested in looking for someone to share not just a religious sentiment but a religious identity.Open to whoever he puts in your path, whether a person or a religious community. It is a question, therefore, of ‘welcoming’ the other human being and of ‘accepting’ him or her precisely because in this mutual relationship, about which Genesis 2: 23-25 speaks, the man and the woman become a gift, each one for the other, through the whole truth and evidence of their own body in its masculinity and femininity.” (Theology of the Body 17:3) 3. Instead, focus on learning other ways of loving the other while dating. Just like a religious community, in marriage you’ll vow obedience… So see if you’re a good match by practicing praying, reflecting and leading a shared spiritual life together. Find common ground through a joint church group or hobby. Not only did this priest suggest that I not run away from solitude, but also that I fill up the vacuum with the sacraments. We ask ourselves, “How much can we do before I have to go to confession.” But if that’s the question we’re asking, the battle is already half lost. Partly because the farther we go, the harder it is to stop, both physically and emotionally. And the more we give our hearts, the more we want to give everything else. The ability to give ourselves, body and soul, to another is a tremendous gift. It’s one of the most beautiful and powerful ways in which we image God, who is self-gift.Most of us understand the physical part of the problem. A romantic kiss between a man and a woman – as opposed to a peck on the cheek – isn’t just a kiss. And when we understand just how very precious that gift is, the goal shouldn’t be to use it and abuse it as much as we possibly can without getting into trouble. As I explain in the book, avoidance has always been strongly recommended by those men and women who have “St.” before their name.
For Catholics, discussions of faith can serve as a shortcut to discovering those shared values.
I thought I would post these ‘Rules or Boundaries for Catholic Dating’ because today’s hook-up culture; today’s self-directive, self-expression culture, promotes things that can be most unhelpful to the soul!
I have taken these from several sources, and while I suspect many will see them as over-the-top, the question must always be, ‘Can we really take too much trouble in protecting our soul from the fires of passion and hell’?
Upon my arrival at the bar, I immediately regretted it. “Huh, that’s sexy,” he said, taking another sip of his beer.
The man who would be my date for the evening was already two drinks in, and he greeted me with an awkward hug. This particular gentleman didn’t turn out to be my soul mate.